Why Inspired Goals Break the Mold
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So you’ve been called the member of the family who ‘doesn’t fit in’, the person in your group of friends who ‘stands apart’, or maybe you are so ‘odd’ that you have difficulty finding a group of friends to accept you. At worst you are the ‘black sheep’ and at best you are ‘different’.
Everyone wants to be accepted. When you are young and you don’t fit in, it’s hurtful. Being accepted or ‘popular’ means you are ‘good’ and being unacceptable, in our formative minds, means you are ‘not good’.
When it comes to setting goals (goaling) and you have either been told you don’t fit in, are different or are shunned by others, you have such a lack of confidence and self worth that the thought of setting a goal to be, do or have what you want is not something you feel you have a right to do. You are just not good enough to live your dreams.
Well, I’m going to break that mold here and now!
‘Fitting in’ makes you a member of the herd. You know, that herd of cows that wanders around the pasture munching grass all day? Being accepted by others is being allowed to munch grass. Yawn! What if you don’t like grass?
It has always been the ones who don’t fit who are the cream that rises to the top. The innovators, the inventors, the ‘idea’ people, the leaders, the creative artists we admire, the entertainers we flock to see. Have you ever seen a herd of Bill Gates’, Donald Trumps, Yoyo Mas, Meryl Streeps, Martin Luther Kings, Oprah Winfreys, Jim Rohns, Tchaikovskys, Mahatma Ghandis, Nelson Mandelas, John Kennedys, Mother Theresas, Celine Dions, etc?
Granted, being an outsider doesn’t guarantee worldwide fame, but there are many who are heroes in smaller ways. So why would you want to squish yourself into a mold that would keep you very uncomfortable for the rest of our life eating grass you don’t like?
Different is great! Most entrepreneurs were the outsiders while growing up. If you don’t fit in it’s a sure sign that you are meant to be an entrepreneur. Even the school system tries to fit you into molds and many people who become successful entrepreneurs often drop out of school. How you do in school is not a measure of your intelligence.
What inspires you? What makes you laugh, feel compassionate, drives you, and compels you? There are hints in here as to your genius. Your goals are the kinds that are the big picture, the kinds those in the mold cannot even conceive. You have a desire to be separate from the masses because the masses are too involved in eating grass to raise their heads and see what you see. Their goal is to find a patch of sweet tasting grass. You, on the other hand, have goals that are inspired goals.
It is the labels put on you that keep you down. If you are finding you don’t fit in anywhere, bravo! Look inside not outside. Use the Inspirational Goaling system to define your purpose, passion & values and what your soul connects with. Discover you and what you have to offer this world. The herd produces milk, you create an ice cream franchise.
This world needs different, this world needs odd and this world needs you.
You don’t belong in a mold unless you are gelatin.
Keep on Goaling!
©Lynn Moore 2010
Lynn,
I love this article. As someone who has felt “different” all my life, it almost makes me cry to read it. When I was a kid a few of us “different” folks actually formed a 5% club…5% oddballs, LOL. I do think we all need community.
Sue Painter
I grew up feeling like the black sheep in the family.
When I reflect back, I can see that the universe designed it so perfectly to give me the opportunity to discover and develop my own way of being.
Now that I have a solid connection within myself I’m here to connect with my global family, which feels like the collection of people who felt like they didn’t fit in before and are now finding their place in this glorious world!
love your post Lynn, reminds me of my purpose and passion!
Lynn,
This is fantastic and so true. I sent a message to my Write On Community about how before I found my MPC Tribe I really felt like I was a little crazy at times when really I was just misunderstood my the “herd”.
Write on!~
Lisa
I love your ‘oddballs’ club Sue! Even oddballs can fit in LOL
Lynn
Wow, and doesn’t ice cream taste so much more yummy than plain old milk! Thanks Lisa
Lynn
Congratulations on being the ‘black sheep’ Laura! And how clear hindsight is.
Lynn
From one black sheep to the others – this is a GREAT blog! And isn’t the world a much richer tapestry for having unique individuals .
Wow – am I ever in the right place! Talk about not fitting in. I have always followed the different drummer, and as the dreamer and entrepreneur in a family of workers it can be hard. Staying true to my own course hasn’t always been easy – but it definitely is rewarding. How cool that I now find myself in a tribe of oddballs! ;p
SUCH a great reminder, Lynn!! INSPIRATION is the ONLY way to go — life is too short to settle for less than an inspired and inspiring life! Love this: “‘Fitting in’ makes you a member of the herd.” SO TRUE! XOXO, Katherine.
Life Blossoming Systems
I’m in complete agreement with you Pinky!
It’s amazing how many in our tribe have been the oddball! Must be an entrepreneurial DNA thing Terry!
A member of the herd is the very last thing I could even imagine you being, Katherine!
xo
Lynn – This post is so right on! First of all, I think entrepreneurs – by nature – are just different. We are wired different, act differently and view things from a much different perspective. I have a sister-in-law that works a regular 9-5 job and always says “I see all your FB activity…but I have no idea what you do…do you actually work for a living?”
Second, I think it is imperative that each of us act from a place of complete integrity with who we are and build our own tribe!
Best,
Phil
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LOVE your sister in law Phil!! What a hoot. Yes, we shall build a tribe of ‘outcasts’, any ideas for a name? Thanks for your comment!
Lynn
Lynn,
Thanks for your blog. If you enjoy ice cream would you only have vanilla or chocolate and nothing else? What if there were no other flavors? Boring!
Mitch
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