So you’ve been called the member of the family who ‘doesn’t fit in’, the person in your group of friends who ‘stands apart’, or maybe you are so ‘odd’ that you have difficulty finding a group of friends to accept you. At worst you are the ‘black sheep’ and at best you are ‘different’.

Everyone wants to be accepted.  When you are young and you don’t fit in, it’s hurtful. Being accepted or ‘popular’ means you are ‘good’ and being unacceptable, in our formative minds, means you are ‘not good’. 

When it comes to setting goals (goaling) and you have either been told you don’t fit in, are different or are shunned by others, you have such a lack of confidence and self worth that the thought of setting a goal to be, do or have what you want is not something you feel you have a right to do. You are just not good enough to live your dreams.

Well, I’m going to break that mold here and now!

‘Fitting in’ makes you a member of the herd.  You know, that herd of cows that wanders around the pasture munching grass all day? Being accepted by others is being allowed to munch grass. Yawn!  What if you don’t like grass?

It has always been the ones who don’t fit who are the cream that rises to the top. The innovators, the inventors, the ‘idea’ people, the leaders, the creative artists we admire, the entertainers we flock to see. Have you ever seen a herd of Bill Gates’, Donald Trumps, Yoyo Mas, Meryl Streeps, Martin Luther Kings, Oprah Winfreys, Jim Rohns, Tchaikovskys, Mahatma Ghandis, Nelson Mandelas, John Kennedys, Mother Theresas, Celine Dions, etc? 

Granted, being an outsider doesn’t guarantee worldwide fame, but there are many who are heroes in smaller ways. So why would you want to squish yourself into a mold that would keep you very uncomfortable for the rest of our life eating grass you don’t like?

Different is great! Most entrepreneurs were the outsiders while growing up. If you don’t fit in it’s a sure sign that you are meant to be an entrepreneur. Even the school system tries to fit you into molds and many people who become successful entrepreneurs often drop out of school.  How you do in school is not a measure of your intelligence.

What inspires you?  What makes you laugh, feel compassionate, drives you, and compels you?  There are hints in here as to your genius. Your goals are the kinds that are the big picture, the kinds those in the mold cannot even conceive.  You have a desire to be separate from the masses because the masses are too involved in eating grass to raise their heads and see what you see. Their goal is to find a patch of sweet tasting grass. You, on the other hand, have goals that are inspired goals.

It is the labels put on you that keep you down.  If you are finding you don’t fit in anywhere, bravo!  Look inside not outside.  Use the Inspirational Goaling system to define your purpose, passion & values and what your soul connects with. Discover you and what you have to offer this world.  The herd produces milk, you create an ice cream franchise.

This world needs different, this world needs odd and this world needs you.

You don’t belong in a mold unless you are gelatin.

Keep on Goaling!

©Lynn Moore 2010