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An Experiment in Abundance ~ Yours!
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Try this experiment: turn on your kitchen tap, cup your hands under the running water and watch your hands fill and the water run over the sides.
Unless or until we hear of a local water shortage and have to abide by municipal bylaws for curtailing the usage of water, we tend to think the water will always be there for us whenever we turn on a tap. Kind of a surprise if it’s not, right?
So what do we really have here? We have a source, we have a delivery system, we have consumption and we take it for granted.
There is a principle called the Universal Law of Supply. It tells us there is and will always be enough of everything for everyone. Hard to believe when we look around us at this planet. Some nations are starving and dying of thirst while other nations are growing unhealthier, more obese and throwing away almost as much food as they consume. The ‘have-not’ nations are sick from lack of food and water while the ‘have’ nations are getting sicker from too much abundance of food. (And no one needs two showers a day.)
So is the Law of Supply wrong?
No. The problem is not the source. The problem is the delivery system and the consumption. The “Source” has provided; the humans have got the delivery system and the consumption out of balance. A ‘physical’ tangible imbalance.
Now let’s take a look at some of the things you want in your life. You arrived on this planet deserving to have all you want and need for a stellar life. That’s what the ‘Source’ provided ~ the potential. So why do so many people complain of not being able to have the lifestyle, the material items and the love and relationships they want? Because the delivery system has blocked up lines and there’s a belief that the consumption is only for “certain” people. Again, way out of balance, this time an intangible, consciousness imbalance. But much easier to correct than the tangible one.
Perhaps just knowing that there is a Universal Law of Supply telling us you are entitled to everything good that you need or want will provide you a change in perspective. Our planet is moving into the Age of Concept and the concept of when there is a demand, the supply will be there is a concept you must agree to if the Law is to work for you. After all, you have agreed to not having what you want or you would already have it!
If you say you want a relationship with a life partner that is kind, loving, respectful, fun, stimulating, intimate, and oh so wonderful, but in the next breath say “oh that would be too much to ask for, I can’t have all that,” you have actually disconnected from the delivery system (the power) that is there to provide.
Whenever Man has been in need of something, an idea is provided (think Wright Bros., Leonardo DeVinci, Jonas Salk, Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, etc). Why do so many say they need something in their lives and then disconnect before the idea can even arrive?
I recall scoffing as a kid when my Dad was reading a science magazine and told us that one day soon there was going to be a special oven that could bake a potato in five minutes and boil a cup of water in two minutes. Something about microwaves. Good thing it wasn’t me trying to invent that oven because I disconnected the power immediately! (punJ)
We can’t blame the Law of Supply because we don’t have what we want. What I am hoping to do here is raise your awareness of this law so you can change your consciousness. If you have a lack consciousness or a poverty consciousness you will remain in lack and poverty. You’ll have to exercise some new thinking muscles to convince yourself that you can believe in this Law and you can have an abundance consciousness.
Pretend you have a Law of Supply coin; on one side is the smiling face of abundance and on the other side the droopy face of lack. Be aware of your thinking every moment and when it is stuck on what you think you can’t have (the droopy face side) simply imagine yourself turning the coin over and think a thought of abundance. It’ll feel weird at first but so does wearing a new pair of glasses and with a bit of time and practice it’s second nature.
This is a Universal immutable Law. When you set your goal and it is aligned with who you are and the Universal Principles you will accomplish your goal, you will get what you want.
The Source gifted you with this potential. You can have your cupped hands full and overflowing as can anyone who expands their awareness, raises their consciousness and looks within. All your answers are within. You can take it for granted!
Keep on Goaling!
©Lynn Moore 2010
How Dare They Judge You!
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One of the best ways to sabotage your relationship goals is to indulge in this behavior.
We all do it. We all do it every day. We all do it many, many times a day.
We can make it polite by calling it ‘forming an opinion’, but it is really judgment. At best it is silent and only in our heads, at worst it becomes gossip and is then a self-defeating game.
How do you feel when someone points out your receding hairline or your short legs? And then you find out that for every person who speaks it aloud to you there are at least 25 others with the same thought who think it silently. Now these examples are pretty minor (if you don’t have a receding hairline or short legs!) and you can shrug them off, but what if someone(s) continually judges you & nit picks at you? What if they hit a real tender spot such as telling a new mother her baby has ears that stick out and start calling her ‘wing-nut’. What if you worked really hard for a long time at landscaping your home and your neighbors told you how you ‘should’ have done it better. Now all your limiting beliefs start clamoring for attention.
More than once I have listened to two women I know watching a TV program and they are both so busy judging the way a character looks or behaves it’s a wonder they can follow the plot or hear the dialogue. And then I listen to them ‘dis’-ing people they both know.
Eavesdrop on any public conversation and at least half the time the talk is about someone who is not there. Most of us ‘aware’ people know that the judgment is not about the target, it is a reflection of the person making the judgment and comes from their own fears. In this article I want to go in another direction and that is their ‘right’ to judge you.
Someone has formed a judgment of your character based on how they perceive your behavior. Their judgment is wrong. But they are certain they are right. They think the more they tell others about their opinion the more right they will be. They also tell others how they think you should change and do things differently (their way). And gossip is born.
What can you do?
If you have a strong self worth, it will be like smushing a pesky mosquito. You pay it no attention and consider the source with pity for their pain. Strong self worth usually takes a lot of time to develop so what do you do in the meantime?
Well, let’s look at their so-called ‘right’ to judge and gossip. No, they do not have the right, but neither can you stop them. So, let’s see what it is they are basing their judgment upon.
Were they born on the exact same day & time as you, in the same place with the same parents, same siblings, same home, same language, same foods and eating patterns, same possessions, same clothing, etc.?
Did they start school the same day, same place, same teachers, same classmates, same subjects, same grades, same first love, same failures and triumphs, etc. etc.?
Were they born and raised in the same period of time, same newscasts, newspapers, magazines, amenities, available knowledge, mechanisms or electronics, music, books, famous or infamous people, medical care, transportation, civil rights, fashions and so on?
Of course not. They are not inside your skin, they are not you. How could they even begin to know you and why you make the choices you do? They don’t have your personality, did not hear, see, feel, taste or smell the exact same things you did.
How dare they judge you!
So what the heck are they basing their judgment on if not you? I think you know the answer. They base it on all of the above according to their life which has nothing to do with you. If the criticism is spiteful and mean, they are showing you their pain and at best their low self worth. Rather than being hurt and angry about what they are doing, you will want to feel empathy or at least some understanding. In this way the energy surrounding you sets up a shield that keeps you protected from their toxicity and your energy sends them a modicum of healing.
The most important thing to remember is that you are not the target! You can afford to take the higher road, distance yourself and not waste time or energy on anger or thoughts of joining in on the gossip by trying to tell people how wrong they are and what the truth really is. All you’re doing is entertaining the troops! Gossipers don’t care about truth, they only want their fix.
Now that you are released from being the target of judgment, what are you going to do next? My suggestion is that you look at your own tendency to judge and be painfully aware every time you do it. Do something physical when you catch yourself such as raise your arm in the air, bite your tongue, flick your hand, hold your breath. Just make something up. Make a deal within your family that when you hear a judgment from one of them you raise your arm or some other signal you agree upon. At first it will be a free for all! Arms are popping up and down around the dinner table so often no one has time to eat! You might even think this is ridiculous and want to stop. Don’t. The only way to change a behavior is to acknowledge it and do something different.
Imagine a world without judgment? I think of no wars or conflict, a much higher average of healthy self-worth in this world and that affects violence and crime, and the domino effect continues.
Relationship Goal Suggestion: “I am aware of judging others and no longer do it”
“Don’t judge me unless you know me…and when you know me don’t judge me unless you understand me…and when you understand you won’t have a reason to judge me.” ~David Diggs Dillon
Keep on Goaling!
©Lynn Moore 2010
2 Powerful Relationship Goals!
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While visiting Hubby in the hospital one day last week and as I was leaving a woman was walking out the door just in front of me. She was crying and I could sense she was just holding on long enough so that she didn’t break into sobs before she got outside.
My heart went out to her as we exited the doorway. She turned to the right, leaned over a railing, placed her face into her hands and broke down allowing those sobs to surface. I placed my hand gently on her arm and asked her if I could be of any help. Through her sobs she said, “My mother is dying.” What I wanted to do was gather her into my arms and just let her cry but we don’t know how people are when it comes to being receptive to touch so I just softly moved my hand a few inches up and down her upper arm.
One of the toughest passages a person travels in this lifetime is losing a parent and having lost both of mine, I related with this woman on a deep heart level. She talked; I listened and nodded while surrounding her with compassion and learned about her. She was from out of town, considered herself the black sheep of the family, mourned that her mother was only 65 years old, had already had five heart attacks and her body was breaking down. All that and this woman’s sister was treating her with anger and disrespect even while they were both mourning their mother’s imminent demise.
This has to be one of the saddest things, family squabbles carried to the death bed of a loved one and all because of judgment, misunderstanding, misinformation and the self-defeating game of needing to be ‘right’. Where did love go? Actually it’s still there or the emotions these sisters are experiencing, even though destructive, couldn’t be.
Well, that’s a subject for another column, but the points I want to make here are two things; the length of a relationship is not the most important aspect and, let one of your relationship goals be to feel compassion for any other human being who is in pain. That includes strangers and people close to you.
This woman and I spent only 5 minutes together. During that time, as we talked, she must have said ‘thank you’ to me at least 3 times. This was a very short relationship, but we connected very deeply and very quickly. We will both remember it. She had a friend coming to be with her so I waited with her and before I went my way I asked her first name and gave her my card saying, “If you need someone to talk with while you are here in town please feel free to call me. I am a life coach, specializing in relationship goals and any time you spend talking with me is complementary.” We were both uplifted by that short time together.
Any interaction you have with another person is a ‘relationship’. They can be short and powerful like this one, long and secure, casual and friendly, short and nasty, long and destructive, almost any combination of words we can put together. And of such great importance, I say once more, if the relationship goals are not being met, other goals are a struggle and pretty much impossible. Because….all that you want to do, be and have will at some point be in the hands of other people. If it seems that you have heard me say this previously it’s because I have. I say it often.
Here are a couple of suggestions for relationship goals:
- “I feel compassion for a fellow human being who is in pain.” Pain can be expressed as tears, anger, depression, a façade of bravery (“I’m fine”) and so many other ways.
- “I validate the feelings of others”. Not to talk them out of their feelings. Acknowledgment and understanding rack up miles of Buddha Points!
As Miguel Ruiz puts it so succinctly in his book “The Four Agreements”, ‘Don’t Take Anything Personally’. People speak out or lash out from their pain center, not at you.
Keep on Goaling!
Belief Systems and Achieving Your Goals-What’s the Connection?
Posted by: | CommentsDid you know that you were born with only two fears? It’s true. I’ll tell you what they are a little later, but for now knowing that all your fears except for two, were taught to you by others can be a shocking revelation. If you were to write a list of your fears right now you could study them one at a time and see if you could recall the very first time you felt that fear. It’s a very revealing and helpful exercise.
Let’s look at fear of success. Did you, as a child, perhaps want to put up a lemonade stand on the sidewalk in front of your home, but when you asked if you could do it you were met with remarks such as “No one wants to buy lemonade from kids”, or “You won’t make any money that way”, “Or why would you want to do that, every kid does that.”
Or you may have asked for an artist’s easel and oil paints for a birthday gift and received a response such as “Why don’t you start with some paper and a paint box because it won’t be such a waste when you quit using them, you know you don’t stick at anything for very long.”
I know, I know, you read those words now and you think how devastating they would be for a child, how damaging. And if you are now a parent your mind is doing a swift back peddle trying to remember if you have ever said such a thing to one of your children. Oh, the guilt you could cook up! Well, that’s for another column but for now just know that every normal parent says and does things that in hindsight they regret. And most do better once they know better. The motivation behind their actions, believe it or not, is protection. They want to protect you from disappointment and hurt and inadvertently they cause it. And it’s not just parents, its teachers, sports coaches, siblings, friends, anybody.
So, what to do now? How can you overcome your fear of success, or failure, or feeling not good enough, or fear of not doing things right the first time, or not being perfect, ad infinitum. All of which, can stop you faster than a freight train when it comes to choosing, establishing and attaining your goals.
Look hard at your belief systems. Which ones are serving you and which ones are not? It’s time to turf the ones which are not. I’m not kidding, picture yourself picking one up and dropping it off a cliff so high you can’t see the bottom. And now replace it with a belief that serves you well. Just as in an instant, the remark made to you as a child undermined your feelings of worth and ability, you can, in an instant, replace that remark with it’s opposite. By doing this you have immediately changed your energy surrounding your belief.
It’s just way too hard to keep up the old belief systems! You have to skew truths into untruths just to support what you need to believe about yourself in order to believe the belief system that does not serve you and keeps you stuck! Whooooa, way to complicated and way too much wasted energy.
Alright now, screw up your courage and do the following:
- Identify the belief systems that don’t serve you well
- Dump them off the cliff
- Replace them with their opposite energy using your thoughts
- Repeat those new belief system thoughts even if you don’t believe them at first
- Repeat some more, write them down, visualize you doing them. Great! The energy is building.
- Choose a goal, see it as already accomplished (in this way you have just ‘set’ it)
- Ask for help to support yourself
Oh, those two fears we are born with? Fear of falling and loud noises.
In my book “Inspirational Goaling” http://www.inspirationalgoaling.com there is an entire chapter dedicated to belief systems with workbook exercises for you to do to increase your knowledge of belief systems and how they affect your goals.
Here’s a suggestion:
In Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life, Dr. Nick Hall shows you how to recognize the impact your beliefs have on your life. The important thing is to know where any given belief comes from and understand how and why you internalized it – especially if it’s a belief you want to change. You also need to recognize those beliefs you’ve been suppressing or ignoring – beliefs that have become habits or beliefs that are preventing you from getting the most out of your life.
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Article written by Lynn Moore
6 Must-Have Secrets to Successful MLM Relationship Goals
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Had it not been for my career with an MLM company that lasted more than twenty years, my husband and I would not be able to enjoy our current free, very comfortable and adventurous lifestyle. We live in an RV resort at home in British Columbia Canada during summer and an RV resort in Yuma, AZ during winter. Our home is luxurious by motor coach standards and all we have to do is turn the key and drive the home down the highway whenever we wish to scratch the traveling itch.
I can’t say that I reached the highest pinnacle in this MLM Company but I can say it was close to that. What made me successful were my consistency in working the business, my tenacity and more than anything else my relationships with clients, colleagues and corporate staff. Because we are people first and business owners second, my relationships were the cement in my foundation. Nothing can be built on a flimsy foundation.
Thus, I put it to you that without healthy relationships in all segments of your life, your success in an MLM business, which is the epitome of Relationship Marketing, will be a struggle. I watched many a promising, talented woman crash and burn when a key relationship, either business or personal, went off the rails and fueled the fire of destruction.
MLM businesses tend to really appeal to women, especially if they are independently spirited. That could also be read as “I don’t want to be tied down to a J.O.B”. These women usually have entrepreneurial DNA in their genes and don’t take well to being followers. Most of us have a ‘leadership’ tendency, set our own timetable, rules and make our own choices. This is wonderful, but there is a downside. There is a tendency to run into more difficulties in relationships. We have the female traits of empathy and nurturing (right brained) which when combined with a strong sense of independence (left brained) can be akin to mixing babies with colic.
Relationships are complex; they will ride an up and down scale. The closer and more deep the relationship, the higher and lower it can ride on this scale. So how does one ensure that their array of relationships will help and not hinder their MLM success?
First, you must have relationship goals. This is the basis, the foundation. List the key people in your personal and business life (some may be in both lists). Decide what it is you want from each relationship. Decide what you want to give to each relationship. Let that person know.
Second, you need to expand your knowledge of human nature. Here is where you become a student, a voracious student. Read the Masters. You know who they are; Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Don Miguel Ruis, Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor to name a few of many.
Third, you must be willing to ask for help, usually before something becomes a crisis. Don’t allow things to fester, become deep rooted. Go to upline, go to corporate and if that isn’t feasible or appropriate, find a relationship coach. Not to act as negotiator, but to help you with your end of the relationship issues.
Fourth, know your own highest values. It is crucial that you live your life aligned with your values. Otherwise you are like a dog with a mouth full of peanut butter – your tongue will feel like it’s going to fall out from licking, but things remain stuck. What can you simply not live without? Freedom? Kindness? Organization? Find someone who knows how to guide you in a values exercise.
Fifth, know how to set your boundaries and inform others what they are. This is tougher for women than it is for men. Women have been traditionally raised to be of help to others, not stand up for themselves. It’s one of the reasons MLM appeals to women. But if you want to climb the ladder of success and independence, you must set boundaries. What is it you simply will not tolerate? Or, what are you tolerating right now? That will give you some hints.
Sixth, you have two ears and one mouth for a reason, become a true listener. It is in desperately short supply. It seems like no one really listens. Conversation goes back and forth with all sentences beginning with ‘I’. When we are not speaking we are running what we want to say in our heads rather than listening to the other person. When you deeply listen you can hear a person’s soul, you can hear what is not being said. It’s an art; an art that is truly appreciated and much needed. Hone it.
If you take all this in, you may find that you are doing pretty well with most of the secrets to MLM relationship success, you may find that you need to sharpen a couple, you may need to update yourself on all. Whatever it may be just start.
And remember to…
Keep On Goaling!
Lynn Moore is a certified life coach, spent 20 years as a leader in an MLM Company, is the published author of “Inspirational Goaling” and an expert in “Coaching the independent MLM woman to achieve her key relationship goals”
What Does It Feel Like To Reach Your Goal?
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How does it feel to reach your goal?
Have you reached an important goal and do you recall how it feels?
What is truly surprising to know is that goal achievement is a process and it is who you become during that process that is the real value in goaling, not the end result itself. This is one of the reasons you are advised to just set that goal and go for it and not attach any ‘success’ or ‘failure’ results to it. Whether you reach the goal or not, you have created value for yourself and it is important that you debrief every time you ‘go for it ‘ and find, write down and study those values and how they relate to your life. Then, based on your new knowledge, you set out again on the next goaling venture. You will succeed, it’s all part of the process.
Some people have told me that when they actually achieve that goal; have that degree in hand, drive off the lot in that new car, walk into the new job and sit at a desk, stand at the altar and wed the love of your life or see the larger numbers on an investment portfolio, it’s an odd feeling. One would think the flags would be raised, the Highland Pipers would parade the streets, horns would honk, and crowds would cheer. They don’t.
I don’t tell you this to discourage you. I tell you this because reaching your goal is an inside celebration. It’s a quiet celebration, yet a most powerful celebration. Others may congratulate you and say wonderful things to you, but you are the person who chose the goal, set the goal, went into the action steps, got up when you fell down, did not give up, and climbed that ladder one rung at a time.
You walk down the street with a spring in your step and/or a grin on your face because this is what you did, it wasn’t something you were given or won. You did this from the moment the idea crossed your consciousness. No one can feel what you are feeling, this is not something you can share with someone else because it is so personal, so uniquely yours. All yours to wrap around your heart, your soul, your body. No one has to approve to validate you or what you have accomplished.
There is no high like it. No drug could ever give you the high that is the confidence you feel and the self worth you’ve raised yourself up to. If your goal has put you in any kind of position wherein you can be of better service to your fellow human beings, you can take the feeling I have described above and multiply it by one hundred! At least. And here’s why….
The Divine Source, your Higher Intelligence, The Universe, whatever you wish to name It is the purest energy. You are energy, a part of that purest energy. Therefore, we are all one, and when you serve others you actually serve yourself through them. There is no telling how many people you serve with a helpful book, an article on the Internet, a donation to a helpful cause, teaching classes, giving physically challenged people a ride in your new car, setting up a scholarship with your burgeoning investments funds, helping people succeed in business, etc. That all comes back to you and there is no shortage of energy for energy never dies.
And to think, all that just for reaching for your heart’s desire and achieving it. There is nothing in the universe that is akin to reaching your goals and I want this for you! So much so that I wrote you a book called ‘Inspirational Goaling’ so you and I can get high!
If you would like to enjoy a quiet, inner celebration, wear a silly grin and bounce down the street you can get started here:
http://www.cleargoalscoaching.com/inspirationalgoaling
Where Does Relationship Marketing Fit With Your Business Goals?
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Maybe you’ve heard this before: “We see things not as they are, but as we are.”
Less than a year ago I learned the real purpose behind the ‘shift’ our planet has made. Outwardly this manifested in financial chaos worldwide with all its repercussions. Naturally, this became the main focus for many of us and certainly the media. But there are some who could see more deeply and thank goodness I have connections with a few and learned that this shifting is sorting itself into a different energy and a raising of consciousness for our world. But that’s or a different column.
Today I’m here to let you know how it is affecting the world of business which has a great opportunity at this time in history. Often business feels the first waves of any economic attack but there are those business operators with vision who could see ‘something’ coming and started to implement changes ahead of the game. These businesses are the ones which will flourish while the world sorts itself out.
Maybe you’ve heard this before, but I don’t think we can hear it too often: “People don’t care about what you say; they care about how you make them feel.”
We have become cynical and for good reason perhaps. Greed has overtly shown up in business and politics. It used to be at least a little hidden, but not any more. How do you feel walking into a business establishment and sensing that this business is ‘all about them’? Then walking into a business that has the energy of its ‘all about you’? Where are you going to put down your money, place your trust and give your loyalty? You don’t have to answer that, I think I already know!
If a business does not have a #1 goal to practice ‘relationship marketing’ today, they are done for before they open the doors. We want to be acknowledged as ‘persons’ before we become ‘patrons’ and the far sighted businesses are doing this now if they haven’t been doing it all along.
There is one industry that has been doing this since its infancy. That industry is Multi Level Marketing. No matter what opinion you may have about MLM, and people love to bash it usually because they don’t understand it or have failed at it, it is a mainstay in business, consistently growing and is a master at relationship marketing.
Those who fail at MLM are those who do not grasp the concept that people are their business, not their product. Some MLMers have jumped from one MLM company to another thinking that their lack of success was because it was the wrong product and a new product would make all the difference when they should have been looking in the mirror. The successful MLMers are those who really ‘get’ and practice relationship marketing.
Business is people and not product. Our western society is awash in a confusing array of products and now is the time we shift back to the original purpose of business and that is to practice relationship marketing, and with a passion. Not just put up signs that say exemplary things about your service, but do exemplary things with your service. Talk with people, not at people. Get to know something about them, their name, etc. have a conversation (give and take) not a sale’s pitch (a solo performance).
Part of the global ‘shift’ is the raising of consciousness on many levels; I just chose business for this column and if your business is in a ‘recession’ it’s time to reassess your goals for your business, prioritize them and perhaps look for some expert guidance before the axe falls.
And always keep uppermost in our mind that people just don’t care what you say, they care how you make them feel.
Make it a goal!
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Which Goals Carry the Most Weight?
Posted by: | CommentsThe human being adapts well to denial.
Let’s use an emotional pain as an example. I’ll make one up, but I want you to bring up in your memory a time when someone close to you did something that caused you to suffer emotionally. Or perhaps you may have done something to cause someone emotional pain.
My example is about Amy (fictitious name & story) and her close ‘friend’. She and Amy had been very close for many years from their teens to mid 30’s. They told each other their dreams, deepest feelings, secrets and about incidences in their pasts. They had a bond of trust and love.
On a day that began like many others, but would turn out to be one of misery, Amy was informed that her best friend had told a co-worker about an incident in Amy’s past that was very personal. Amy was completely crushed and felt deeply betrayed. She cut all ties to her friend.
Ten years passed. Gradually Amy thought of her past friend less often, she adjusted, made new friends and went on with life. Until the day she received a phone call. A call from Amy. And in that instant all the feelings of shock and betrayal returned as fresh as the day they first happened. Time had not healed the wound.
I leave Amy’s story momentarily to make my point. Goals, the things we want which we feel will bring us more fulfillment and happiness are not just material items and personal achievements. Sometimes goals need to be about dealing with some of our unfinished business.
How do you think Amy’s feelings after her friend’s betrayal affected her life? Would she find trusting anyone much more difficult and therefore cause all her relationships to suffer? Would she perhaps suspect betrayal where none had occurred? She would undoubtedly be hypersensitive to these things and very protective of her feelings.
Amy had not dealt with or experienced any closure regarding this emotional shock in her life, and although over time she thought of it less, what she was doing was sweeping the feelings out of her consciousness and what I call ‘gunny sacking’ them. Tucking the feelings neatly into a gunny sack, tying it tightly and burying it deeply inside. What it really is, is a ticking time bomb. That bomb went off for Amy the day her friend called her.
It seemed the friend had also suffered over the years. Her suffering took the form of guilt, it had affected her life too over the decade to the point where she made it a high priority (a goal) to find closure. That closure, she decided, could only be obtained by contacting Amy and expressing her deepest apology and offering to make whatever amends Amy might be open to. Even if Amy did not accept the apology, the friend needed to say it, if even for her own sake.
In many instances of coaching clients I find that what gets in the way of accomplishing their goals is something in their past or present that causes a blockage. They may not even be aware of it until I ask a particular question which opens a door. I promise you mending unfinished relationship business can be done even if it is one sided. There are many options.
Therefore, let me share this nugget of wisdom. Setting and reaching our goals is paramount to our feelings of success, happiness and fulfillment in life. First on your list should be your relationship goals; past, present and future. For without healthy and loving relationships, no amount of material gain or personal achievement means much for any length of time.
See what relationships need to be a goal for you to set.
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Ever Had A Goal Find You?
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I think I’d be pretty safe in betting that there have been many times that a goal has found you rather than you setting a goal.
I know, you are shaking your head or have that quizzical expression on your face with wrinkled brow wondering from what planet I am channeling. But this has happened to me too and it took decades for me to recognize it.
It takes time for us mere mortals to learn to accept and trust our intuition (in-tuition: inner teacher). You read, see, hear things that trigger you with an idea or a feeling that is instantaneously written on your ‘brain blackboard’ and for a brief second you react positively, sometimes with a goosebumpy sensation in your soul. Then in less time than it takes to throw a piece of chalk, the ingrained negative belief systems rush in and rub it out.
You allow your supposedly inferior qualities to flash into the brain and talk you out of the intuitive spark or into a lesser fizzle that you believe you could better handle and thus you ‘settle’ for less than what you can do or be. Something like becoming a tenured professor at Harvard and settling for teaching kindergarten. Not that teaching kindergarten is not noble and takes incredible talent, but if you were destined to be a professor, teaching kindergarten would not fulfill you, you would feel frustrated and like a square peg in a round hole.
How blooming sad is that! Yet we’ve all done it.
So let’s up the awareness factor by telling you that these flashes of intuition are your Divine Source speaking directly to you. The D.S. does not holler, it whispers. It is also very patient and will keep speaking to you at different stages of your life until you hear it at last.
So what would happen if the next time you get that goosebumpy sensation you stopped and just breathed in the feeling with no judgment? Let it simmer, marinate, perk for a few minutes. Allowed yourself to believe it is a goal that has found you. Keep the door to the ugly little critics barricaded and you will be astounded at how quickly that seed will germinate and grow faster than a Chia Pet!
The most recent goosebump thing happened to me immediately after reading two sentences in a magazine. I scoffed right away. But this time D.S was persistent and kept poking me with it like an irritating mosquito whining in my ear at night while trying to sleep. I finally really ‘heard’ it and instead of coming up with all the reasons why I simply could not follow up on this intuitive thunder clap I just surrendered and said, “OK, if I am to do this, let’s find the ways.” And with that the answers to every ‘how’ question began to present themselves. The ‘why’ was to come much later.
And thus I ended up in Kathmandu, Nepal as a volunteer English teacher to mini monks in a Buddhist monastery. Yup, no lie. Never had such a thing remotely occurred to me!
This experience was to change the entire direction of my personal and business life. So much so in fact, I was compelled to write a book. Within a month of writing this blog post Inspirational Goaling will be available to the world and the entire adventure is there for the reading. From the goosebumpy feeling, to acceptance, to all the experiences of six weeks on the other side of the world, to the rescue of a near dead puppy that came home with me, to the final revelation as to ‘why’ I was to achieve this goal, it is all disclosed.
Early responses to the manuscript include:
“This book rocks! It made me cry, it made me laugh and I felt like you were talking directly to me” ~ Sophfronia Scott, Author, Publisher, writing coach and developer/teacher of Business Book Bootcamp
“I’m finding it hard to find anything about this book to critique. What a pleasure to read such a polished, clear manuscript. Ms. Moore successfully draws the reader into her own story, while simultaneously offering encouraging and practical advice and truly inspirational exercises and thought projects. Her tone is light and conversational – any man or woman would be lucky to have someone like Ms. Moore for a pal.” ~ Denis Boyles, Publisher of Advantage Media Group
And thus I urge you, listen carefully to the teacher within; you never know when a goosebump may turn into a gold brick.
Make it a goal!
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How Do You Know If You’re A Goal Setter?
Posted by: | CommentsI have a short story for you today.
Once upon a time a lovely lady named Judith, sat gazing out her bay window at the fields, streams and mountains in the distance. She sighed at their beauty and lamented the fact that she just wasn’t happy even with her wonderful surroundings.
She needed something more in her life, but she didn’t know how to go about getting it, didn’t know how to start. In fact, she didn’t even know what it was! She just felt this craving, this need.
At one time she had heard about and even tried ‘goal setting’, but it didn’t work for her and so she accepted the fact that she just wasn’t the kind of person to be a ‘goal achiever’.
She rose from her window seat and lethargically moved across the room toward the door, but something caught her eye. There was a large mirror in the room and there was something written on it. How odd! Puzzled, she moved closer to the mirror and was able to see and read these words: “Judith, you have been a goal setter and achiever since the day you were born.”
Yikes! What the heck was this? How did these words get on the mirror? It was as if the mirror could read her thoughts and more words appeared.
“Yes, you and every person on this earth is a born goal setter and achiever, the only difference between you is that you either choose your goals CONSCIOUSLY or you automatically reach UNCONSCIOUS goals. Wherever your thoughts go, you go.
Judith was intrigued, but confused. She needed some clarification.
And the mirror obliged with, “You have been thinking that you are not a goal setter and therefore unable to receive the things you want, and what has happened? You have not received the things you want. You unconsciously set it up to not receive what you want. What do you think would happen if you changed that thought to ‘I succeed in knowing and receiving what I want to be, do and have in my life’?”
And the mirror went on to write, “Your unconscious believes everything you tell it, it cannot differentiate lies from truth. It accepts negative and positive thoughts as just energy then sends that energy out like a giant magnet to attract what you are thinking. And so everyone who has a thought, no matter what it is, is a goal setter and that includes all human beings. Simply become a conscious goal setter by listening to what you tell yourself and change the thoughts that don’t serve you.”
As Judith awoke and found herself still on the window seat, she slowly sat up and thought, “What a strange dream.” She glanced over her shoulder toward the mirror on the wall. It was normal in appearance, but Judith could still see the writing on the wall, so to speak.
How about you? What’s written on your mirror?
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